Understanding the Possibility Triangle

You have big goals and an even bigger heart, yet you still find yourself stuck in the same loop. You do extra at work and resent it later. You bend your boundaries in relationships and wonder why your needs are not met. You chase a new plan every month and end up more drained than before. Underneath it all is the same feeling. Self doubt. That quiet worry that maybe you cannot trust yourself yet. If that sounds familiar, you are not broken. You are running codependent plays in a game that actually rewards True Independence. The Possibility Triangle is your new playbook.

When the scoreboard does not match your potential

Codependency shows up like this:

• You say yes when your gut is screaming no, then spiral in self criticism.
• You measure your worth by other people’s reactions, likes, or praise.
• You over plan, overwork, and still fear you are behind, which leads to burnout and procrastination.

The more you chase validation, the more you lose trust in yourself. This is the hidden tax of people pleasing. You treat life like an away game where you must impress the crowd instead of an inner game where you build your capacity. Your scoreboard ends up tied to opinions, not principles. And your performance capacity drops because you are playing from fear.

Principle over preference, inside out over outside in

Stephen R. Covey taught an inside out approach to growth. Principles like integrity, stewardship, and courage do not change with trends. When life is value centered, your identity rises and falls with the market, the mood of your boss, or the attention you get. When life is principle centered, you become solid. You act from values that do not fluctuate. David R. Hawkins’ work on levels of consciousness points to the same truth. Fear and pride collapse your energy. Courage and truth expand it. As you elevate your state, possibility expands with it.

One of our core philosophies is LAB. Love, Accountability and Balance. You build trust by making and keeping small promises. You practice love by choosing the highest good for yourself and others, including healthy boundaries. You live accountability by measuring your actions with honesty. Trust is the belief in consistent value, reliability, and integrity in yourself. Balance is in the ability to bring yourself back to center. That is the foundation of True Independence.

The Possibility Triangle

The Possibility Triangle gives you a simple way to combat self doubt and step into self leadership. It has three legs:

• Faith: The willingness to believe in a higher possibility for yourself and your path, even before the results appear.
• Trust: The daily proof that you can rely on yourself. You make deposits into the account of your own integrity.
• Surrender: The release of control that lets you work with life instead of against it. You stop forcing, you start flowing, while staying accountable to principles.

Think of the triangle as a structure you can step into. Each side reinforces the others. Faith without trust becomes fantasy. Trust without surrender becomes rigid control. Surrender without faith becomes passivity. Together they create a stable base for action.

At YDBG we measure that stability through performance capacity. Imagine your capacity as a portfolio:

• 20 percent Fitness: how you care for your body and energy, because health is the foundation.
• 30 percent Lifestyle: your environment, habits, relationships, and systems.
• 50 percent Consciousness: your mindset, self image, and state of being.

Your Trust App, which includes a Balance Chart and a Scoreboard, converts deposits in each category into trackable momentum. The Possibility Triangle is how you choose your deposits with intention. The Trust App is how you measure them. On GameDay, which is any day you choose to perform on purpose, you execute the plays.

How to use the Possibility Triangle with A.I.M.

We use the A.I.M. Methodology. Activate, Integrate, Measure. Here is how to put the Triangle to work.

Activate: Start with a declaration and one micro action for each side of the triangle.

• Faith activation:
  • Declaration: I believe a higher outcome is available when I act with integrity.
  • Micro action: Write a one sentence vision for the next 90 days that is principle centered. Example, I create sustainable health by honoring sleep, movement, and honest communication, even when it is inconvenient. This is not a wish list. It is a principle statement.
  • Practice: Morning two minute visualization of you living that statement. See yourself acting with integrity while you feel calm and clear.
• Trust activation:
  • Declaration: I keep promises to myself because I am reliable.
  • Micro action: Choose three daily deposits you can do in under 10 minutes. One for Fitness, one for Lifestyle, one for Consciousness. Example, Fitness, 10 slow squats and a brisk five minute walk. Lifestyle, make your bed and clear your desk. Consciousness, five mindful breaths and one page of a principle based book.
  • Practice: Put those three deposits in your Balance Chart. Check them off. That is a visible trust deposit.
• Surrender activation:
  • Declaration: I let go of what I cannot control and stay accountable to what I can.
  • Micro action: Create a Let Go List. Write three things you will stop trying to control this week. Example, other people’s opinions, the exact timeline of a promotion, the outcome of a conversation. Next to each, write one thing you will own. Example, my prep, my tone, my follow up.
  • Practice: Two minute evening reflection. Ask, What did I release today, and where did I show up fully.

Integrate: Build these into your week with structure and community.

• Use the Balance Chart to plan five to seven deposits for the week across the 20, 30, 50 portfolio. Keep them small enough to win. We measure performance capacity by consistency first, intensity second.
• Schedule a GameDay Fitness Assessment. It can be a simple circuit that gives feedback on your margin. Push ups to a comfortable stop, a one minute wall sit, a three minute walk test, and a breath control drill. Your numbers are not a judgment. They are feedback about your fitness and your stress load.
• Join or form a Trust Tribe. Two to five people who play the same game. Share your three deposits and your weekly wins. Accountability made loving is fuel, not pressure.
• Use principle centered planning. Inspired by Covey, block time for the big rocks. Sleep, movement, deep work, and connection. Align your schedule with your principles. This is where True Independence is built.

Measure: Score it so you can grow it.

• The Scoreboard shows completed deposits. Aim for 85 percent completion, not perfection. 100 percent is a trap. This is about integrity, not control.
• Track simple markers in each category:
  • Fitness: steps, sleep duration, hydration, energy on waking, weekly GameDay results.
  • Lifestyle: clutter cleared, meals prepared, focused work blocks completed, conversations handled with honesty.
  • Consciousness: visualization minutes, journal entries, fears faced, Let Go reps completed.
• Run a 10 minute weekly review. What deposits created the biggest return on energy. What will you adjust. Keep what works. Replace what does not. This is where principle over preference becomes practical.

Real life plays you can run this week

Career, the people pleaser manager:

Maya leads a team and says yes to every request. Her days are scattered and her nights are restless. She activates Faith by writing her 90 day principle statement. I create a reliable team by protecting focus time, giving clear feedback, and delegating appropriately. For Trust, she sets three deposits. A daily 30 minute focus block on her top priority, one courageous conversation per week, and a two minute pre meeting breath reset. For Surrender, she builds a Let Go List. She stops trying to control every outcome. She owns clear expectations and follow up. After three weeks, Maya reports fewer late nights, a clearer team rhythm, and more confidence in her decisions. Her Scoreboard shows 80 percent deposit completion. Her anxiety drops because she is no longer chasing approval. She is matching actions to principles.

Health, the injury comeback:

John is a runner who keeps pushing through pain. He activates Faith by believing that patience can produce better performance. He writes, I honor the healing process and return stronger. For Trust, he makes three deposits. Ten minutes of mobility, a protein focused breakfast, and a daily check in with his physical therapist exercises. For Surrender, he releases the race timeline and commits to process metrics, like pain free range of motion and sleep quality. After six weeks, his GameDay tests show improved core endurance and better sleep. He feels calm instead of restless. He has not lost his drive. He has redirected it.

Relationships, the boundary builder:

Alana loves deeply and often ignores her own needs. Faith means believing that real love requires truth. She writes, I express my needs clearly and listen with respect. Trust is three deposits. One request stated per day, one honest no per week, and a 10 minute self check before important talks. Surrender is letting go of her partner’s immediate reaction and staying present with her delivery. Within a month, conflict decreases and respect increases. The balance chart shows momentum in Consciousness and Lifestyle. She is not trying to control. She is leading herself.

Why the Possibility Triangle works

The Triangle shifts your state. Faith elevates your vision which raises your energy. Hawkins described that willingness and acceptance open access to power that force cannot. Trust builds evidence that your identity is not just a hope. It is a pattern. Surrender removes friction. You stop wasting energy on what you cannot influence. Daniel Reid’s work on Taoist health emphasizes harmony between effort and ease. When you align effort with principle and release resistance, the body and mind cooperate. The Blue Zones research also reminds us that simple, consistent lifestyle choices add up. Small deposits compound. Tony Robbins often says that decisions shape destiny. With the Triangle, you make decisions that match principles and turn them into measurable deposits.

Avoid the trap of goal chasing burnout

The Possibility Continuum is a useful lens here. On the far end is grind and chase, which creates short spikes and long crashes. On the other is apathy, which creates excuses and stagnation. The Triangle moves you to the center where possibility is steady. You are not chasing outcomes. You are becoming the person who naturally produces those outcomes. Principle over preference, inside out over outside in.

From codependency to True Independence

Here is the transformation in simple terms:

• Before: You outsource worth to other people’s approval. Your mood moves with the scoreboard of likes, praise, and paychecks. You say yes to avoid conflict. You spend energy controlling what is not yours.
• After: You insource worth through daily deposits. Your scoreboard measures integrity. You say yes to what aligns and no to what does not. You love more effectively because you are honest. You move with accountability, not anxiety. Trust, Love, Accountability become your operating system.

As your Trust account grows, your decisions become cleaner. You spot distractions faster. You feel lighter, not because life got easier, but because you are no longer working against yourself. That is True Independence.

Practical checklist to start today

• Write your 90 day principle statement in one sentence.
• Choose three daily deposits, one for Fitness, one for Lifestyle, one for Consciousness.
• Create your Let Go List with three items and one ownership action for each.
• Schedule a GameDay Fitness Assessment and a 10 minute review.
• Share your plan with a Trust Tribe partner. Ask for loving accountability.
• Put your deposits in the Balance Chart and track them on your Scoreboard.

Common questions

What if I do not believe in myself yet.

Borrow belief from the process. Faith is not pretending. It is choosing a higher explanation. I can learn this. I can be consistent in small ways. That is enough to start.

What if I miss a day.

You are training integrity, not perfection. Review the miss, adjust the plan, make the next deposit. That quick reset is a win.

How fast will I see results.

Most people feel a state shift in one week and see life results within 30 to 90 days. The more honest your deposits, the faster you compound.

Next steps

If you are ready to stop playing small and start playing the real game, here is your next move:

• Join our Trust Tribe coaching to get structure and loving accountability.
• Get on the Trust App waitlist so you can use the Balance Chart and Scoreboard to track your deposits.
• Book a clarity call. We will map your Possibility Triangle and design your first 30 days of deposits.
• Schedule your first GameDay Fitness Assessment this week and get feedback on your current margin.

Play the game. Health is the foundation. Principle over preference. Build trust in yourself with simple deposits. Activate faith, practice trust, and surrender what you cannot control. That is how you turn insecurity into momentum and codependency into True Independence. And that is how you make the Possibility Triangle your daily advantage.